We all know how frustrating it is to have to go back to an
issue that we thought we’d already healed, especially when it’s taken us a long
time to work it out, or when our circumstances have changed a lot for the
better, or when we have seen so much progress on that account that we’d already
reached a point of being proud of ourselves…
Yes, we’ve all been there, and we all dread being there again, and we
constantly prepare so that it doesn’t happen – yet we’re all probably going to
be there again anyhow! So, what’s to be
done about this? If it’s unavoidable,
why do we keep on trying to make things better for ourselves? If we’re going to have to deal with the same
issue over and over again, why do we even bother healing? Well, the answer is simple enough: because we
all deserve to live a life in which we are healed and whole and satisfied.
Why does this happen, then?
If we all deserve to feel good with what we’ve done with ourselves, why
do we have to keep looking at certain issues over and over again? The way most people think about this is that
they haven’t quite learned what they needed to learn, and that’s why they have
to be in the same situation again – that could be true in the case of people that
find themselves over and over in similar situations: jobs that give them the
same kind of challenges, relationships that fail for the same reasons, or social,
financial or health issues akin to previous ones. In that case, a full reassessment of their attitude
and response to those problems has to be done, but what if it is that we only
have to look at the circumstances again without having to undergo the actual situation? In that case, there might be good news ahead! Heraclitus said: “No man steps into the same
river twice, for it is not the same river and he is not the same man”, and in a
very deep, spiritual way, it’s the same with the problems: they are not the
same problems that they were to begin with; and even more to the point, you are
not the same person that you were back then, because you’ve already undergone a
huge learning and, hopefully, evolving process.
Ask yourself this: what if you have to see that life you
left behind because you have to show to yourself right here, right now, how
much progress you’ve made? What if the
challenge this time is to show yourself how much better you are at this moment,
how much you’ve evolved, how much you have now to feel proud of yourself
about? Plenty of people feel afraid of
this moment, because they find it hard to believe that they might have had so
much progress, and they might even feel undeserving to have achieved something
or to have the respect of others for how brilliantly they’ve done in their
path, so could it be then that this bend of the labyrinth consists of a test
from yourself to yourself? We all have
to undergo it sometime, because we also need to respect ourselves and be
self-aware of our achievements, only some people find it more difficult than
others! And some people let it go to
their heads, I know, but they have their own set of challenges to work with… Still, maybe this change of perspective is
one many of us need in order to remain strong and keep going, and I want to
share with you how I came to that conclusion.
I’ve spoken many times on this blog about my ongoing process
of having to look at the same situation from different angles, about acquiring
a new perspective on an old issue, and about finding myself face to face with
old ghosts and shadows. Today I am
living a similar process to that, except that it is kind of reversed: it’s not
about the being there “again”, but about having read an entry from two years
ago which I could have easily written a couple of months ago instead! Save a few changes that is – two years ago I
was single and frankly very scared that I would remain that way, whereas today
I am happily married to an incredible man; two years ago I was moving out of
London and back to Mexico as a frustrated jobless Graduate, whereas today I
have moved out of Durango and into England as a resident and a freelance
writer… so a few major changes that is!
Still, the entry that I cleaned up a few days ago made me think how
similar those months after arriving from London were to those months of waiting
from my residency to come through: both times I had to confront my issues as a
misfit, both times I had to face my fears of not being able to succeed, and
even both times I had to fight my inner demons regarding my confidence in
myself, physically, emotionally and intellectually… It took me a few weeks to realise that it was
not about having to learn something new, or having to undergo the process again
because I hadn’t done a good enough job the first couple of times around, but
because I had to see how much progress I’d made! It seems like a very basic thing to mention,
but sometimes we need a reminder of the most basic things in order to keep
going. Sometimes we need to be told that
we have the tools we need, and sometimes we need to have a go at something again
so that we can show how better we can handle it this time around.
So, my dear readers, I hope this has been a pleasurable and
helpful read for you, and I hope you have a wonderful month ahead of you!
Many blessings and much light!
Sandra Cole ≈ Writer, healer, seeker, lover
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