1.
I
learned that trying to come up with “new” material is not always the way to go
when you’re on the healing path (for yourself or for others). The thing is, I’d stopped writing briefly
because I felt that everything that I had to say, I’d already said; I thought I
was being repetitive, but in fact I was doing my own inner Labyrinth, where I
have to keep walking for a while because I’ve yet to reach the exit and start
again. That’s what we’re doing all our
lives, whether we realise it or not: we enter the path, we spiral and keep
looking at the same situations but from different angles, then we reach our
centre, we get our balance, take a deep breath and begin the journey out again,
this time wiser and even able to teach others from our experience if we wish…
Then in we go again and start afresh, because the human being is always
growing, always evolving whether they intend it or not. So, while I’m doing the promised re-editing
of the entries I’ve already got here, I might revisit some of the subjects under
different lights, and see what happens ;)
2.
I
realised that letting go of the blogs in order to focus on my novel was
definitely not the way to go! Of course,
for those who don’t know (or rather for out-right bragging purposes), I just
got married! After such a long period of
aching dryness, I met the love of my life and my whole world changed within a
year… Yet for the past few months all my writing energy was put into the
planning of the wedding, and I do have to wonder: if I’d been carrying on with
either of my blogs, would it have made a big difference on how much more of my
novel I’d finished? This is of course an
“I will never know” kind of situation, but one thing is for sure: in the half a
year I didn’t follow-up on my blogs, I only finished part 1 of Iar, so I think
this year I will carry on with two blogs and balance out the novel… and I’ll
let you know what happens!
3.
I
realised that no matter how different you are from your family, how strange you
seem to them and how much that sets you apart outwardly, the genetic memories
and paradigms that run as blockages in your family are still deeply ingrained
in you, and sometimes even worse, because you feel so different that you never
see the blockages coming until they start acting up! So, those are the ones to watch out for,
precisely because you’d never thought they were a part of you.
4.
I
learned that the world needs more people talking about, understanding and
yearning for natural beauty than I had given it credit for… This issue about magazine beauty being “what
attracts attention” really has to stop – when we say magazine looks are fake,
it simply means that people who look more natural are actually more beautiful,
because we can see the real shapes and shades of bodies and faces, instead of
plaster, gloss or glitter... Think very
deeply about this, because it’s time that realising that every shape and every
shade has its own beauty becomes the thing to live by (not the trend to follow,
but the thing to believe and feel happy and at peace with!).
5.
Yet
the other kind of natural beauty must not be forgotten, either! No “new learning” here for me, I just wanted
to point out how important it is for our health and spirit to get back to the
enjoyment of nature, be it mountains, lakes, sea or desert, and anything in-between...
6.
I
learned that the world needs more people talking about, understanding and
yearning for being in love than I had given it credit for, too…
7.
I
learned to cook a whole bunch of different yummy dishes which I hope I don’t
forget before I get back home!
8.
I
realised that no matter how emotionally independent you already are, there will
always be someone telling you how to deal with a difficult situation (i.e.,
being away from your new husband for political/economic reasons during
Christmas break, or how to act around your new husband so that he remains in
love with you)… And more often than not
they won’t let you have your say…
9.
Referring
to that, there will always be the “I have to tell you something but don’t say
anything back” person in your life. You
know the one I mean, “I have some advice to give you, and it’s up to you
whether you take it or leave it, just don’t say anything about it, because even
though I’m not living your life or have any idea what you’re going through, if
you try to explain to me things I don’t understand about your situation, it’ll
just mean that you’re someone who doesn’t want to change, lacks the force of
will to do anything about your situation and/or are just bellicose,
self-justifying and argumentative.”
Sound familiar? Yes, because
they’re always there and they’ll always be there… But the thing is that it’s their problem, not
yours! It can be someone who loves you
more deeply, even your own mum or grandmother (all right, it’s usually those
people!), but that’s because they come from a paradigm where if you say your
feelings it’s because you’re being quarrelsome with them and also most probably
from a generation in which it was believed that women had to be sitting down,
smiling quietly and giggling and laughing only harmonically in order to be
perceived as lovely and attracting men to them – if a woman was sarcastic or
showed feelings of dislike towards something, or felt a painful stab at
something their family members said and came back with an answer, then they
were rude and unlovable all of a sudden.
No…? Doesn’t ring a bell? Was
that just Latin America, then…? I don’t
know, but anybody reading this from anywhere in the world and feels related to
it, feel free to take the advice of remembering that it’s their problem, not yours!
10.
I
learned how important it is for the world to understand that men also have it
socially hard regarding similar issues ladies do… This seems like a very basic thing not to
have learned by the age of 33, but when you’ve spent your life either single or
with really bad experiences of men, it’s hard to learn even the basic things, especially
when all my male friends are so laid back that I often thought that because
they deal with it differently than us it was somehow easier for them… But it’s not about how easy or hard it is,
because that actually applies to every single human being on the face of the
earth: everyone feels differently, so something that might be easy for one
might be difficult for the other, and that doesn’t make the one stronger than the
other or vice versa! The fact is that
the new wave of feminism is in dire need of balance… There are some activists out there, like the
by-now-loved-by-all Emma Watson who seem to be doing things right, but we still
need more people to hop on board and make sure that this is a win-win situation
for both genders…
11.
I
learned how to handle babies!! More or
less…
12.
I
learned that people won’t appreciate what you’re saying about your health,
emotional situation, or job/marital/living status until you show them a good
article on such a subject. All right, I
was being sarcastic with the “I learned” bit, I’ve always known that, but I
momentarily forgot and it came back to bite me in the bum…
Thank you
for being here with me in this re-launch of my blog… I hope you enjoyed yourselves, and that you
enjoy your first weekend of the year ;)
Cheers and
blessings and happy 2016!!
Sandra Cole
≈ Writer, dreamer, healer, lover
Read more
about my healing activities at: http://clarityfound.today/
And about
my literary works at: https://www.facebook.com/clarityfound/
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